One of the members of my Groups Leadership Team recently provided his Men’s Accountability Group with a different perspective on their weekly eleven questions that some of them had been using for approximately four years. I loved it so much, that I asked him if I could post it to my blog, which he agreed to.
So what’s the new twist he provided? Well he rewrote the questions and turned them around from what they confessed NOT to be doing, to what they actually HAVE done in that particular area of discipline in their lives. In other words, they turned the negatives into positives and refocused the questions in order to show righteousness, help others and grow closer to God in the obedience of the Holy Spirit. What they have experienced with the new questions has been transformational as they focus on righteous deeds and are engaged in deeper conversation, avoiding the obligatory “yes” or “no” questions.
Here are those list of questions, both the old and the new…
- Have you been with a woman this week in such a way that was inappropriate or could have looked to others that you were using poor judgement?
- Have you been completely above reproach in all your financial dealings this week?
- Have you exposed yourself to any explicit material this week?
- Have you spent time daily in prayer and in the scriptures this week?
- Have you fulfilled the mandate of your calling this week?
- Have you taken time off to be with your family this week?
- Is there anything in your life competing with the Lord?
- What are you now or becoming addicted to…coffee, food, sex, pornography, sports, alcohol, toys and possessions, work, power, position, title, prestige, solitude, retirement, money?
- Have you just lied to me? Have you been honest in all of your dealings this week?
- Are you living in self-sufficiency?
- Have you done anything in the last two weeks that took courage?
- In what ways did you look for an opportunity to treat or view a woman in a Godly way this week according to Scripture?
- In what ways did you redirect God’s financial blessings to you this week toward others, His church or His work?
- What positive actual steps did you take this week to keep yourself pure?
- What specific things did you do to become more relationally intimate with God this week?
- How were you able to hear and how did you respond to the promptings of the Holy Spirit this week to live beyond your own needs and desires?
- What positive actions did you take this week to show that your priorities are in alignment with God’s priorities as a husband, father, brother, uncle, son, church body member, co-worker or neighbor? How were you intentional about this?
- Where did you actually spend your time last week? Why? How have you shown with your time and deeds that I desire Christ above all else?
- Explain what you have actually done this week to bring your mind, body and spirit into submission to Christ?
- In what ways have you shown your Savior and others that you were living in the Truth this week? In what ways do your actions and intentions match or misalign with your beliefs?
- Explain how you totally depended on God this week in work, relationships, marriage, finances, health, ministry, salvation, state of mind, well-being, past, future.
- In what ways in situations and circumstances did you operate in your own strength and skill instead of asking God to intervene with His strength and wisdom with courage to speak? Courage to remain silent? Courage to defend? Courage to act? Courage to ask questions? Courage to face lawlessness and death? Courage to believe the unpopular and unseen? Courage to believe by faith? Courage to start new or over again? Courage to admit wrong and ask for forgiveness? Courage to believe that you are valuable and worth dying for?
When you look at the difference in these questions, you can clearly see the power of a good question. Can’t wait to see how this group goes deeper in their walk with Jesus by asking such focused and God honoring questions!